Wednesday, June 11, 2008

LOSINMG JEWELERY

I had said in one of my previous blogs I didn’t have rules and regulations in my home. I was a little misleading in this statement gentle reader, but for a good reason.
If someone came who had rings or expensive jewelery I was very explicit with the families. I would not be responsible if the jewelry came up missing. Everyone understood that. Most folks took the expensive items home. I was very fortunate because in thirty years nothing ever came up missing.
It was on a Tuesday when the call came. The hospital had a lady looking for a place. Her name was Caroline and she was on oxygen all the time. She seemed to think the world owed her a living and could be rather mean to the other folks at times. She had some nice earrings which she wore all the time. She also had what looked like a very expensive ring. I explained to her that the ring she was wearing should be in a safe deposit box. She insisted she had no relatives just a very nice friend named Truman who lived in Scotia. She said he had Power of Attorney in case anything happened and he would get the ring.
I really learned a lot from her. The reason she was so mean at times was because she was very depressed and no one ever came to see her. The way this came about was really interesting. She was always sending letters to Truman and I didn’t give it a second thought. I thought it was nice she a least had one friend.
One morning Kate, one of my employees, and I were just discussing lunch when there was a loud knock on the door. This was surprising because no one ever knocked, they would just come in. I opened the door and this gentleman said,” I am here to see Caroline immediately because this is what I received in the mail this morning”!! He handed me a letter she had sent him and when you opened it up it read, in huge letters “I HAVE BEEN KIDNAPPED”!! PLEASE COME AS SOON AS YOU RECEIVE THIS OR CALL THE POLICE”!! I had to read this twice and then I said “I will take you to her room but she is fine”.
I proceeded to take him to her room and she was so happy to see him. She told him it was a joke just to get him to come and visit. He apologized to me. I told him not to worry and I needed to talk to him privately before he left. He said he would look me up. It was about forty minutes later and he came into the kitchen.
He said he was sorry about what she pulled and gave me a brief description of her life. She really had an abusive husband and resented anyone who was happy. I explained I was concerned about the expensive ring she was wearing. I didn’t want the responsibility of having it lost. I wanted him to take the ring with him. He went back to her room and talked to her again. When he returned her told us the ring was a fake. The real one was in the bank and the one she had on was probably worth about fifty dollars!! I was so relieved about that. Of course we never told her we knew but when you think of what could have happened it was scary.
It was after that we had an understanding with anyone who had anything of value.
When you have folks who are forgetful you really have to be careful. They not only lose clothes: or forget where their room is but I had one lady who forget where she put her teeth!! I am telling you dear reader; it was always interesting to see what would happen at Miner’s in one day.
Love, Red

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Great blog. I was my mom's caregiver for 16 years as she sunk deeper and deeper into vascular dementia. Her jewelry was a huge issue and she always thought someone was stealing it until it turned up hidden in a clothing drawer or some such. When I talked to the Nuns at Madonna College about my book, "Dementia-Diary, A Cargiver's Journal,"they became hysterical with laughter about this issue. It seems that elderly Nuns also get dementia and are always accusing their caregivers of theft.Keep up the good work with this blog. Best wishes, Bob Tell, www.dementia-diary.com