LOOKING FOR STEVE

It was a beautiful day that day. It looked like we had a full schedule for the day ahead. I was going to work with my sister, Esther, until noon and then Chris was coming in for the 12:00PM - 8:00PM shift.
Chris had worked for me for many years and was a great person. She was so friendly and easy going. All of the people thought she was great.
On this day we had Dr. Finger coming to do everyone’s feet. This always took a good hour and sometimes longer. I always get a laugh with his name but it is true. He is one of the nicest foot doctors I have ever had the pleasure of working with. Just simply great!! He always took his time and spoke to everyone. It made them feel good and proud that he didn’t hurry and always made sure he didn’t hurt anyone. On the day he was due to show up everyone had to have their feet soaked. It was very important and the folks loved every bit of it. I always made a big production of this by telling someone their feet smelled. The other line was “How long have you been wearing these socks??” or “Why have you got socks with holes- do you think we could throw them away?? It was always a very happy day for the doctor and the people.
The only person who wasn’t happy was Steve. Steve had Alzheimer’s. It was very hard to get him to sit still for any length of time so we always waited until the doctor showed up before we started soaking his feet. This seemed to work pretty well. Steve had come to live with me when his wife had a heart attack. The story she told the doctor was –she fell down the stairs and Steve wasn’t home. When he came home she hollered and hollered for him to help her but he said he was fixing dinner and to be quiet. She was finally able to pull herself across the room and got the phone and called 911. When the first responders came they had a hard time with Steve. He wasn’t going to let them in but he finally did. They said she had to go to the hospital and she said Steve had to go also; he couldn’t be left alone. They took both of them to the hospital and he sat by her bed all night and slept. The next day the Dr. Jolly called me. He said’ I have a patient here with a bad heart and her husband has Alzheimer’s and is sitting with her. Can you come and help her?” I went right to the hospital. When I arrived in the room I said very quietly, “Good Morning Mrs. White. I have a Home for the Elderly. Your doctor told me your husband needed a place to stay so I thought he could go with me.” She was exhausted but she replied “I don’t think he will go with you. He never leaves me”. I turned around and with a big smile on my face, in my best voice said “Hi Steve! I wonder if you would like to go get a cup of coffee and a doughnut with me.”He said “I sure would but I don’t have a coat”. I said, don’t you worry about a coat, I have my van right outside the door and the heater is on. “Let’s go now and come back later”. He got right up and I said to Mrs. White “I will be back in an hour and you get some sleep.” I took Steve to my home and when we got inside my sister, Esther, was waiting. I had called her on the phone and prepared her for Steve. She said” Hi Steve, I got a cup of coffee and a fresh donut for you”! He sat right down just as happy as a clam. I went back to the hospital and told Mrs. White where her husband was. She couldn’t believe he was happy. She was so relieved to know he was going to be ok and she went to sleep. She was in the hospital for almost a month but Steve was fine with us. It took a lot of patience just to keep him happy but we all tried. Mrs. White said he had been a stock broker all his life so we figured out a plan. If he started to pace I would tell him to look up some stock and he would sit down and start reading the stock market. Steve was a perfect gentleman at all times. There was a chair in the living room he always called ‘his chair’. This was typical of all of the family. Each one had their own chair. On this day Esther had taken the cover off his chair and washed it. Steve wouldn’t sit down and we couldn’t figure out what was wrong. He wasn’t interested in the stock market or anything else, just kept pacing. Then came the dawn!! Esther got the cover back on the chair and he sat right down. That is when we realized with an Alzheimer person you couldn’t change anything
Dr. Finger was supposed to be there at 4:00 but he was late. It was almost 4:30 and I was a little nervous because we ate at 5:00 and it made it a little awkward if we got off schedule. It always took the doctor a good hour to do everyone and he loved to talk. Don’t get me wrong, gentle reader, but when I say he liked talking…I meant he really liked talking.
Steve was really starting to get upset. He had soaked his feet and was ready for the doctor. Dr. Finger finally arrived and he did Steve first. Dr. Finger started on the rest of the folks and everything went smoothly. By the time we were done it was 5:30 and everyone was starved. Dinner was uneventful and by 6:30 they were all watching the news.
I left and was in the bedroom when Chris called and said “I can’t find Steve. I have looked everywhere and he is not here.”I immediately started looking. He never went off the porch so I went through all the bedrooms and no Steve!!! I said to Chris” He has to be here somewhere so we will look again!!” Chris went one way and I went the other. I looked in Pat’s room, no luck, in Bob’s room, no luck, in Selma’s room, no luck, in Jim’s room but Jim was sleeping so I met Chris back in the dining room. She is pretty upset by now and so am I. She said “What are we going to do??!!” I said “I am going to call 911 because this is serious”!! Just as I finished saying that I glance around the room at the folks watching TV and THERE SAT JIM!! How could Jim be watching the news if he was sleeping? I go back to Jim’s room and guess what?? Steve is sleeping in Jim’s bed. We had washed bedspreads and Chris put Steve’s on Jim’s bed. Steve saw the bedspread and he figured it was his bed so he went to bed. I won’t tell you how relieved I was and happy but I will tell you this. We never changed the bedspread or the cover on Steve’ things again!! I had to buy double of these things so when they were washed he still had one on the bed and chair. That is how important these items were to a person with Alzheimers.
Steve really helped me understand what a horrible disease Alzheimer’s is. You could not change anything in his room; the colors had to stay the same. He didn’t like any murder stories on TV and some of the soap operas upset him. He loved his wife dearly and we always talked about her to him. We would make it a point to use her name so he would not forget it. Dr. Jolly was the best doctor for figuring out his medicine. I took Steve to see him many times and Dr. Jolly was able to get him on medicines to help with the pacing. A few months later I got another person with this same thing and by than I knew what to expect.
Well, gentle reader, you have a great day because you sure deserve it!!!!
Love Red