DEMENTIA CAN BE GOOD

I have been very busy, gentle reader, but when I tell you why you will understand.
I got married on July 25th to a wonderful guy. It was a small wedding with friends and family. I figured the third time around was enough so I kept it simple. Everything was great and we only had one problem. The best man choked on a piece of steak and Pat Marrow tried the Heimlich maneuver but it didn’t work. Bella called the fire department but it came out so all ended well.
I remember when I done this maneuver a long time ago. One of the residents had choked on a hamburger and so I did it. The hamburger came right out and it scared him so bad he would never eat hamburger again!!
It was late in the evening when I received a phone call from the Saratoga Hospital. It seems there was a 92 year old lady in need of help and it had to be kept quiet. No one was to know she was with me. They said she had dementia but had been sexually abused for several years. I went to the hospital and picked her up. She was the saddest looking person you can imagine. She had to be about 5’8”and weighed about 110 lbs. It was like skin and bones with long scraggly hair. My heart went out to her and I just gave her a big hug and asked her if she would like to go home with me. She said she would so off we went. I had strict orders about anyone trying to locate her by phone or car so I was a little apprehensive.
I had German Sheppard’s and knew no one could drive in without the dogs barking. I informed Chris and Esther if anyone called we knew nothing.
The information I received about her was very sad. Her husband had died three years before and so she took in a border to help her out. The man she took in was in his early 50’s and he took everything she had. It only took him a few months to get her trust and then he started in on her. He would make out checks, have her sign them and then take her to the bank and have her cash them!! She would give the money to him and there was nothing illegal about it. Sometimes he took her out to eat and she just loved all the attention. Why her family didn’t notice what was going on was beyond me. After about 8 months of this he got so he didn’t let the family in. He would tell them she was sleeping and they left. Then he got her to tell the family she didn’t want them coming to visit anymore and so they left her with him. This woman had a very nice home and beautiful antiques. When her husband died he left her very well off and no bills to pay. The police figured she let him move in because she was lonely. He managed to mortgage her home by having her sign all the papers. During all this time he was also abusing her sexually. The only reason all this came out was because of a UPS driver.
When the UPS driver went to deliver a package he rang the bell. There were small windows beside the door and he glanced in to see if anyone was coming. The lady was on the couch, in a bad position, nude and that was all he needed. He called the police and the rest is history.
Mary had dementia and it was apparent she really didn’t know where she was but she was happy. We had to give her medicine to keep her from getting upset. She would get started on where her husband was and it was very hard. We would tell her he went to the store and she would cry. The best thing we found to help was have her help one of the other ladies. She loved to “fuss” with their hair so we had her doing everyone’s hair for a long time.
When her family was finally told where she was they came to visit. They were so happy to have her out of the house.
Mary lived with us for about a year and then one night she died in her sleep.
I always treasured her memory because it was nice knowing we helped someone who was truly in trouble.
The worst part was the man got away with everything and could not be charged with any crime. The bank foreclosed on the house and Mary lost everything she had.
The good part of Dementia was she never understood what she lost.
Until next time, dear read, have a great day & remember

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You grow old because you stop laughing.

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