LOSINMG JEWELERY

I had said in one of my previous blogs I didn’t have rules and regulations in my home. I was a little misleading in this statement gentle reader, but for a good reason.
If someone came who had rings or expensive jewelery I was very explicit with the families. I would not be responsible if the jewelry came up missing. Everyone understood that. Most folks took the expensive items home. I was very fortunate because in thirty years nothing ever came up missing.
It was on a Tuesday when the call came. The hospital had a lady looking for a place. Her name was Caroline and she was on oxygen all the time. She seemed to think the world owed her a living and could be rather mean to the other folks at times. She had some nice earrings which she wore all the time. She also had what looked like a very expensive ring. I explained to her that the ring she was wearing should be in a safe deposit box. She insisted she had no relatives just a very nice friend named Truman who lived in Scotia. She said he had Power of Attorney in case anything happened and he would get the ring.
I really learned a lot from her. The reason she was so mean at times was because she was very depressed and no one ever came to see her. The way this came about was really interesting. She was always sending letters to Truman and I didn’t give it a second thought. I thought it was nice she a least had one friend.
One morning Kate, one of my employees, and I were just discussing lunch when there was a loud knock on the door. This was surprising because no one ever knocked, they would just come in. I opened the door and this gentleman said,” I am here to see Caroline immediately because this is what I received in the mail this morning”!! He handed me a letter she had sent him and when you opened it up it read, in huge letters “I HAVE BEEN KIDNAPPED”!! PLEASE COME AS SOON AS YOU RECEIVE THIS OR CALL THE POLICE”!! I had to read this twice and then I said “I will take you to her room but she is fine”.
I proceeded to take him to her room and she was so happy to see him. She told him it was a joke just to get him to come and visit. He apologized to me. I told him not to worry and I needed to talk to him privately before he left. He said he would look me up. It was about forty minutes later and he came into the kitchen.
He said he was sorry about what she pulled and gave me a brief description of her life. She really had an abusive husband and resented anyone who was happy. I explained I was concerned about the expensive ring she was wearing. I didn’t want the responsibility of having it lost. I wanted him to take the ring with him. He went back to her room and talked to her again. When he returned her told us the ring was a fake. The real one was in the bank and the one she had on was probably worth about fifty dollars!! I was so relieved about that. Of course we never told her we knew but when you think of what could have happened it was scary.
It was after that we had an understanding with anyone who had anything of value.
When you have folks who are forgetful you really have to be careful. They not only lose clothes: or forget where their room is but I had one lady who forget where she put her teeth!! I am telling you dear reader; it was always interesting to see what would happen at Miner’s in one day.
Love, Red

You must realize that to all the folks who lived in this house it was their home. I tried not to have rules and regulations because they needed to know it was home. If they wanted to come to the breakfast table in their p j’s with a housecoat on, it was okay. If they wanted to take a nap that was fine. To my way of thinking rules and regulations were a part of a nursing home and I didn’t have a nursing home. I had a Home for the Elderly.
Of course I had problems with the state over this. When I first started my business I was very proud of what I done. Anyone who lived in my home received the best care I could give. When I made the beds I put draw sheets on so if someone wet to bed I could change it easily. By putting draw sheets on also helped the emergency squad when they responded. If a person was in bed it was much easier to move the person by lifting with the draw sheets. I know this sounds boring, dear reader, but bear with me for a minute.
When I first started, remember, I wasn’t planning on having this business but here I was taking care of the elderly. I never applied for a license because it never occurred to me I needed one for this.
One day there was a knock on the door and when I opened the door a gentleman said “I am Mr. Smith with the NY State Department of Aging and we need to inspect your home”. I said “That is fine with me, just come right in”. Well, gentle reader, he did and it was terrible. I showed him the rooms and he immediately pulled back the covers and wanted to know what the draw sheets were for. I explained why I had them and he said “You are not supposed to have people who are incontinent”!! I said “I didn’t know that and why couldn’t I have them”. He said” Only a licensed facility can care for them”. I asked about a license and he said for me to have a license I could only have four people. Well, gentle reader, I had five people and how could I send someone away?? Was I supposed to draw straws? He took down everyone’s name and said I would be hearing from the state. I was just sick!! I mean I was really sick. I couldn’t sleep and I think I was inhaling cigarettes worse than I ever had before. I loved these people and now someone was going to make me move them out. It just wasn’t right. I called a dear friend and she said “Not to worry. They won’t make anyone leave because there is no room for them anywhere.” She said “You probably won’t even hear from them for a long time.”
About two months later I received a letter from the state and it said I was going to be inspected again. I called the person who signed the letter and asked when the inspection was going to be. She said within thirty days. I can’t begin to tell you how upset I was. I cleaned and cleaned and than I did it all over again. I just wanted everything to be OK. I tried to keep the smile in place but it was not easy. What if they “shut me down??” What would happen to my people? The biggest fear was telling me to move someone out. I just could not do that.
My husband and daughter were very helpful by encouraging me to stop all the worrying. My daughter was a huge help by doing a lot of the work but it is not easy to just quit worrying.
The thirty days passed and no one showed up. I got a little bit angry to think they could just do these things and then drop it. I waited five more days and I called them!! I talked to the person who signed the letter and she said they would be here within a week.
The next morning about 10:00 AM they showed up. There were four people and they came in, walked thru the rooms said everything was ok,. I asked about having too many people and she replied, “I only see four people here so your fine”!! I think I went into complete shock. I guess it shows that some of them really have a heart.
Of course all the people were happy but they really had no idea how close they came to being made to move!!
Sometimes ignorance is bliss, right……….(:<)!!!

Love, Red